A successful marriage is based on two things: "finding" the right person, and "becoming" the right person. Just because two people share the same bed and the same name, doesn't guarantee harmony.
E-Enjoy. Do you enjoy the same things? For example, when your husband is glued to the ballgame on TV and you want a little conversation, it will be.
V-Values. The Bible asks, "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" Do you agree on major issues such as intimacy, child rearing, finances, in-laws, goals, and your relationship with God?
A-Accessibility.Are you both emotionally accessible?
L-Love.Do you really love each other? The kind that listens to your spouse's opinions and concerns, overlooks their faults and failings, values them, and expresses itself through kindness?
U-Understanding. Can you understand and handle each other's differences?
A-Appreciation. Your mate can't read your mind, so get into the habit of expressing your appreciation for one another
T-Temperament. If you're naturally upbeat but they're moody and introverted, you may have an oil-and-water mix. How will you handle this?
E-Environment. If you're from different backgrounds, are you comfortable in the same social and spiritual settings?
If you want a happy marriage, E-V-A-L-U-A-T-E these things.
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